It’s a big no-no even if you feel like pulling out your hair, or just want to be alone. Never say things that will hurt children to an extent that they feel they aren’t loved or wanted. Never say you will leave him/her alone, or demand to be left alone. When my son was three years old, I bought him a kitchen set and was prepared to see people surprised. D on’t stop them from exploring things they may be curious about or good at. Let kids decide for themselves - whether to be more like a girl or a boy when they grow up. ‘Girls/Boys don’t do that’Ī child is a child, so let him/her be. RELATED: 5 Golden Rules For Good Parenting 6. This may start the conversation again and you have a chance to bargain or win the argument. When my child doesn’t buy my point, instead of asking him not to argue, I make a sad face and say ‘Okay, do whatever you like, but I am upset.’ Yes, keep talking and listening till they buy your point. Tell them what they are supposed to do and why it’s important.Ĭonvince them with your words, tone, and expressions. Rather talk to them if you want them to stick to your advice. Let them question and share their opinion freely. Never ask children to stop talking or arguing. Never ban the channel of communication between you and your child.
Kids learn through trial and error. However they’ll never try anything new, if you’ve made them afraid to try. So let me do it for you.’ The best alternative, however, is ‘Let’s do it together!’ When my son thinks he can lift a heavy chair, instead of ‘you can’t do it,’ I tell him, ‘try if you can do it or I will help you,’ or ‘You might hurt yourself in this attempt. Just remember to give them a chance as long as it doesn’t harm them. There will be times when children would want to do something that you know they won’t be able to do. Never shake your child’s self-confidence. For more information on Flintobox activities, click here > 4.
PRO TIP: Want to engage your child creatively and independently at home? Take a look at Flintobox! Each box is based on a different theme and introduces children to a variety of concepts through fun skill-building activities. RELATED: 4 Major Parenting Styles You Had No Idea About Instead of “Don’t play in the house,” tell him/her “Why don’t you call your friends to the park and play.” If you don’t approve of your child’s action, try giving options.įor example, instead of saying “No shouting,” try “Talk softly, please.” If kids hear ‘no’ all the time, they lose confidence and faith in their parents. A straight ‘NO’Ī straight ‘no’ is too harsh for your little prince/princess. It drives the feeling of failure in your kids and develops dislike between siblings. It makes them jealous. They will feel left out.
Never compare your children with their brother/sister. ‘Why can’t you be like your brother/sister?’ RELATED: Why Name-Calling Your Child Is A Big No-No! 2. Teach them what is right and wrong, and to value good things over bad. Chances are that they would never want to let you down again.
In fact, give them a positive comment like “you are the best/cutest/brightest child in the world”. But don’t tell them that it makes them a bad boy/girl. Always tell them to be good, happy, and positive.Įxplain to them that some words or actions are bad and might hurt or harm somebody. Kids are innocent and believe in goodness. Never feed your child with negative thoughts, it kills his/her self-esteem. So here are the 10 things that you should definitely refrain from saying to your child.
But with a little bit of effort and strong will, we can make a better of us and minimize the mishaps. We’ve all been through this.Īnd from all the experiences and research that we did, one thing is clear - the only way we can avoid this from happening is, by carefully monitoring what we speak to and in front of our children. Unfortunately, a child’s mind is not developed enough to understand that these were unintentional and as a result, it cripples their little minds.īut do not worry. Children take everything literally and the way you talk to them goes a long way in building their personality.Īs a parent, however, while in the middle of juggling tasks, you might end up reacting to your child, at times even speaking out unintentional words. And the most important - yet difficult part of parenting is learning to talk to your child.